Congratulations on your successful divorce!
I know the financial consequences will devastate you for the next two decades and I hope you’re at least somewhat disappointed in how little time you’ll be spending with your children. Since you’ve been so victimized, I’d like to offer a few thoughts that will allow you to digest what just happened.
- Being physically present in the house or grocery store (etc.) with the children does not count as parenting, even if you interact with them at a reasonably human level. It also does not automatically make you a superior parent when compared to your husband who was working 90 hours a week, although leaving the children with you might be construed as negligence and negligence is child abuse. I think child abuse is a crime in most states. If your parenting skills are in question after so many years, it’s not your husband’s fault.
- If you want to complain about the verdict, it’s okay to mention the child support and alimony and the limited financial resources you’ll have to deal with. However, you should also sound at least somewhat affected by the loss of child custody, even though your offspring must have said bad things to the judge about you. Remember that they are still cute.
- Attacks on your character in court are not automatically lies. People can honestly express negative beliefs about you. Those beliefs can even be true.
- If you want to show that the testimony about your profligate spending was inaccurate, start by furnishing your new apartment with less expensive items.
- Do not tell me how you lost because you were pursuing an honest court case while your ex-husband was lying left and right. On second thought, you can tell me that but not immediately before complaining about how your best friend was giving scrupulously honest testimony in court that did not consistently work in your favor.
- The judge obviously didn’t like you very much and maybe she was biased against you. You know, those liberal activist judges always want to create a more equitable society by giving full custody of the children to the man.
- It’s not our legal system’s fault that you lost. You consented to the rules when you filed for divorce. Now go pay your lawyer.